"Everything happens for a reason."
We've all heard this before. We've probably all used this phrase before also. Whether it was used as an excuse for something as simple as a bad grade or something more time consuming such as a relationship, we have certainly turned to this group of words for solace.
But what if I believe this is a cop out, a means to give up and not fight for something you believe in.
Here is the fine line I'm walking when I hear this phrase.
Firstly, I can't help but put my life into God's hands. I'm a Catholic and I believe God has a plan. I really do. He puts me through these trials and tribulations to help me see that I can accomplish many things despite the difficult obstacles it took to achieve them. He knows what my life will be like, and I put my trust in Him. With this said, the phrase "if it's meant to be, it will be" brings me solace since I know my life is in good hands. I shouldn't have to worry about the bad grade I studied all night for because this was a small bump in the road He put in place for me. The same goes for any relationship we find ourselves involved in.
Secondly, I find I hate this phrase. I realize hate is a strong word, but I can't tell you how many times I hear it overused. I begin to think that it's losing it's meaning. People give up before they even try. I've always had to work for the things I wanted. I wanted nursing school and soccer, so I worked hard to make sure it happened. I work for a lot of things in my life, and there was an instance where I couldn't fix a certain aspect. I tried to mend something I deemed a very essential part of my life at the time, and the feedback I got was "everything happens for a reason and if it's meant to be, it will be." Goodness, I COULD NOT STAND THAT. I fought and I felt like the response I got was a means by which to make life easier. Life's not meant to be easy, and I don't believe in cop outs. Work for what you want. Nothing is ever handed to you. Don't give up before you try.
So here I am, walking a fine line between what I believe and what my mind keeps over analyzing. Maybe it's as simple as letting it be; trust God and his path for us all. Or maybe I'm supposed to persist and fight even for the things I can't control. Here's what I do know: life and everything associated with it is complicated with a capital C. I just need to sit back and enjoy the ride.